Divide Life and live only the good parts?
What is it about life as we know it that encourages us to amputate some part of our daily experience?
✓We try to avoid our pain
✓We dismiss our annoyances
✓We compare and judge and then try to skew our lives by those judgements
✓We have a narrow field of allowed bodily movement
✓We have a narrow field of expression
✓We have a narrow field of preferred emotions
✓These are all kept in place by a variety of ideas
What are these thoughts that rope us into our corral? First we must believe that life is compartmentalized, that we are a sum of some optional parts that can be picked over, and chosen or discarded.
Does life really work like that? Or does our discarding only ensure that it becomes a permanent part of our landscape? Really even the choosing is only creating anxiety when it doesn’t look that way.
Second we unconsciously believe that another can tell us how to live. Adopted standards are our preferred judgement tools. And molding our lives to a role model is our preferred method. What do we really know about how that role model lives? We are just assuming that they’re great, aren’t we? Or if that role model is a salesman, are they trying to present themselves in a way that increases sales?
Third we have defined so many rules that block us from experiencing. Everything that we move toward, and everything that we move away from is held in our memory as a pre decision. Many of those predecisions show up as which feelings we are willing to have and which are forbidden. We have a list of what to do and where to go, and that is our limited repertoire of movement. No wonder we seem to be a “one-trick pony”. Click Read More.
Please don’t think that I am trying to get you to indulge unpleasantries more than is reasonable. I am not saying anything about what you should do. I just suggest experimenting with what can be, and what cannot be amputated. See if those strategies work or don’t work, and if there is an easier way that merely allows for everything that comes up.
See if it isn’t coming up because you have planted those seeds, or maybe that you are “doing it” right now, in this present moment. Then just stop it.