Are Dysfunction and Effectiveness correlated with Languaging Ability?

Let's say that this is all well and good and to touch this clear space is actually fundamental to a life well lived.

Now then, even after that clear knowing we all still live in a society, which is basically a linguistic creation of agreements, (kept or broken).  Talking from the primary context above we tend to say that this agreement machine is just going by itself?  That "source is living life on the planet".  We say that nothing is actually being done (in this singular real moment) and that there is not even anyone here to do anything.  Doing is just a recording in the memory or one more imagination.  Of course these sayings are also great jumps of the imagination and to me of dubious value, but I hear them spoken often. 

What we are now finding out about living in society and structuring (or defending from) mental verbal constructs is that there are two fundamentally different ways to use words.

1.  The first we are all familiar with from childrearing and education.  This is when words are used to create an image of how we "should be" and how we "should behave" in the world.  Then words create an external ideal image that we can conform to.  We either do it well, or just get by with it, or are miserable failures.  Most are not all that good at being ideal for someone else. 

We may live all of our life knowing only this kind of use for words.  It's the realm of "I already know", "I am right you are wrong",  "I agree I disagree",  "it's not my fault I am not to blame", "what's in this for me what is the bottom line".

a) In this borrowed context we never discover anything about our authenticity, or who we are without these benchmarks hanging over our heads.  

b) Our Integrity or our own creative power is relegated to be used as a flakey dance of deflection and excuses. 

c) There is such a limited possibility to find much interest in life, much less a passion.  Much of our energy is used in defense, so no engagement can be found to fulfill us and keep our light shining.

2.  A second possibility for the use of words may occur to us when we actually choose and use our words as if they were extremely important.  To get to that realization we probably have seen that being authentic is the foundation of moving with effectiveness.  It's a place where who we are is so honored that there is limited friction in fighting with someone else's expectation.  Then our words are not a meaningless convenience to deflect, but they take on a possibility to create our life.  We can even create open heartedness, a full flow with life, embodiment in the open space of good feeling, and any other theme that we deeply care about.